Stress: Handling what life throws your way

Change is inevitable – after all, nothing really stays the same, but how you handle stress is crucial for a balanced life.

But in today’s challenging times, it seems like we’re on “uncertainty” overload, never knowing what will happen from one moment to the next. Here today, gone tomorrow – or, at the least, very different tomorrow.

Uncertainty bring stress and confusion, and while most of us would be quick to say that we want less stress and more certainty in our lives, what we really want is less of a stress reaction to what life is throwing our way.

We can choose our response to stress.

We can’t choose what happens to us as change is inevitable – but we can choose our responses to the situations we encounter. Let’s take a look at five different responses that people have to stressful situations. As you read through these five responses, you may want to think of a recent stressful event or news that you may have received, and see what your reaction to that event can teach you about how you habitually respond. You may have one type of response at work, and another at home, or you may react differently depending on who else is involved.

The first, and unfortunately all too common response to stressful events is to suffer and be a victim to it. People who respond this way don’t take action. Things happen TO them – and though they may complain and be generally miserable about it, they don’t take any steps to do anything. They allow life to control them, instead of the other way around. This way of responding is certainly not recommended, and eventually, it will take its toll on one’s physical and mental health.

The second type of response is to accept it the situation, and to get some perspective on it. Someone with this response may say “so what,” or perhaps get some perspective on the situation by asking if it will it matter in a year – or a week – or even in a day.

The third way to respond is to actually take steps to change the situation – taking action to bring it to resolution (or at least move toward resolution). This is a very powerful response, and one that many effective leaders employ.

The fourth way to respond is to avoid the situation. People responding this way make a decision not to get involved in a situation that they don’t see as concerning them, or upon which they can’t make an impact. For example, someone may choose not to get involved in a dispute going on within their office if it doesn’t directly involve them.

The fifth and final way that people generally respond to stress is to alter the experience of the situation. When we look at a situation differently, the experience itself changes. Changing perceptions is probably the most challenging of the responses, because we tend to be stuck in our own interpretations and assumptions about what’s happening, but it is also perhaps the most powerful of all.

It’s your reality. Don’t stress about it ~ change your response to it!

It’s your world, and you can create it as you wish. Remember, what one person sees as stressful, another person barely notices, or sees as exciting and full of opportunity. How are you going to choose to view change today?

For Brandon Moreno, being a trainer and success coach isn’t just a job, it’s a mission. He has logged nearly two decades of extensive experience leading professional development teams in Fortune 20 companies, international business environments, and startup organizations.

Brandon is a Certified Professional Coach and one of the few selected to coach using The Sedona Method®. In addition, he is a Master NLP Practitioner, certified in Time Techniques™ and hypnotherapy.  Brandon has been a featured expert for the San Diego Business Journal and has spoken alongside bestselling authors such as Greg Reid as well as Oprah guests like Lisa Nichols and master motivational speaker Jim Lutes.

He is bestselling co-author with Brian Tracy, Dr. Wayne Dyer and others of Bouncing Back: Thriving in Changing Times. He holds a Bachelor of Science degree from the University of LaVerne.

He has done extensive graduate work in Global Leadership at the University of San Diego and holds a certificate in Human Resources Management from Chapman University.

Visit:  http://www.integrativeleadershipgroup.com for more information on getting a coach in your corner today!

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COACHING: Is it beneficial?

HAVING A COACH IS NO LONGER A LUXURY

Coaching today is becoming as rampant as social media.  Everywhere you turn you are starting to hear people talk about “their coach”.  After 2 decades in the human potential arena, I know there are disadvantages and advantages to such.

Coaching is a brilliant and extremely beneficial tool that I believe everyone should have in their tool chest.  Having a coach in your corner helps you see things in an entirely new perspective and will assist you in discovering solutions you might not have thought of on your own.

A Coach Provides Different Perspectives.

Picture this; you are hiking up a mountain.  The terrain becomes more difficult because the grade increases and the slope become steeper.  You are already half way up from the starting point but you become frustrated.  As hike becomes more challenging you begin wondering when you will make it to the top. In fact, you may be so entrenched in the climb that you no longer see the end point.  You notice your internal dialogue telling you things that you may not or may agree with.  Your heart begins pumping harder, your breath increasing.   You hear rustling sounds of the environment and you attempt to be at peace with that, but the climb feels to be getting more difficult.  As you pause to gather your bearings, you have a choice.   Either continue to the top or go back down the mountain.  You decide to forge ahead and when you make it to the top you feel a sense of relief.  You discover a person at the top who appears to be as if he is just starting out!  He is refreshed, smiling, breathing deeply.  You discover he just climbed the same mountain but he had a different route that was much easier that you too could take.  Having him with you, you would have discovered the same victory with more ease along the way.  This is what coaching is.  He is your coach.

A s you embarked on a journey finding the coach that is right for you, there are 10 things to look for a, I will here are the top 3:

1. Ensure they are at or further along than where you are currently at. If you were taking golf lessons, you’d look for someone who is more advanced than you, right?  Likewise, your coach should have a proven track record of results.  
2. Make sure they are certified or have the appropriate experience.  Coaching is a skilled process and like any proven processes, can be adapted to every area of your life.   Without the appropriate knowledge, they will provide little value to you if they aren’t able to get to the root of your issue.
3. Ensure you resonate with them. You will work closely with your coach and various issues may arise that you did not realize were blocking you.  Having a close rapport with your coach will ensure you are comfortable discussing these things to get the most value from your session.

Having a success or life coach on your corner is no longer a luxury, it is essential.  Top entrepreneurs and executives have known this for years. 

Now, as more quality coaches enter the mainstream, their services have become more and more accessible to anyone who is ready to make a change in order to live life on their terms.

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For Brandon Moreno, being a trainer and success coach isn’t just a job, it’s a mission. He has logged nearly two decades of extensive experience leading professional development teams in Fortune 20 companies, international business environments, and startup organizations.

Brandon is a Certified Professional Coach and one of the few selected to coach using The Sedona Method®. In addition, he is a NLP Practitioner, certified in Time Techniques™ and hypnotherapy.  Brandon has been a featured expert for the San Diego Business Journal and has spoken alongside bestselling authors such as Greg Reid as well as Oprah guests like Lisa Nichols and master motivational speaker Jim Lutes.

He is bestselling co-author with Brian Tracy, Dr. Wayne Dyer and others of Bouncing Back: Thriving in Changing Times. He holds a Bachelor of Science degree from the University of LaVerne.

He has done extensive graduate work in Global Leadership at the University of San Diego and holds a certificate in Human Resources Management from Chapman University.

Visit:  http://www.integrativeleadershipgroup.com for more information on getting a coach in your corner today!

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Come vote for me to be casted as a Life Coach on an upcoming reality show for a major cable network! No information is required, just one click and it’s fun!  VOTE NOW!  As TV’s number one coach, together we can transform lives!