Children Need Families Not Baby Daddies!

Children need a father, not a baby daddy.  One would think that a national disaster should be declared when you consider that two out of every three black children are born to an unwed mother. Where are the fathers?  These numbers should be of concern to all, but our society appears to embrace the trend of single women choosing to have children outside of marriage.  Some would argue that as long as a woman is able to provide for a child and offer it a stable home, then she has the right to do as she pleases.  I wonder what the verdict would be if the child were given a choice. 

The results obtained from extensive research prove that fathers are a major influence on a child’s development; especially as it relates to individual identity.  How hard should we be fighting for the preservation of the family in our nation?  Obviously, we have not been fighting hard enough.  It was discovered that “compared to families with two biological parents living in the home, adolescents from single-parent families have been found to engage in greater and earlier sexual activity (Journal of Behavioral Medicine 17, 1994). We owe a lot to single parent moms who have heroically raised their children without the help and support of the fathers.  Some children manage to achieve great levels of success and appear to do well in society, but the fact remains that children do better in two-parent families. Society suffers when the number of children born outside of marriage increase because the majority of those families depend on the financial support of the government. We cannot ignore the fact that families matter and children need a father.

There are a myriad of negative forces in our world that would seek to tear down a person’s morale, so it is important that every child have the benefit of parents to look to for guidance and affirmation.  Core attachment abilities for empathy, sharing, caring and other traits that foster strong familial attachments occur during early childhood.  A positive and affirming relationship with our parents provide a visual depiction of the family as God intended.  Contrary to popular belief, families need husband and fathers, not baby-daddies.  One of the most important necessities for mankind is the ability to form and maintain relationships. Mentors and other adult role-models play an important part in the absence of positive influences.

Children need families and a positive relationships with both parents.  Say yes to the family and no to a daddy in name only.